Yep, it’s true; I am a rebel. My defiant nature has nothing to do with politics or the law (for the most part); but if you said I was an nontraditional girl, you would be right on the money, honey. I am honestly bored by doing things the way they have always been done and most importantly, they don’t seem to work for most people…especially moi. But please don’t misunderstand and assume that I am pessimistic priss or against the concept of tradition. I believe wholeheartedly in the basic human need for ritual, hope and goals.
So, when the New Year’s roll around and the internet is flooded with all the tired ideas of how to kickstart your rezzies, its not that I am in opposition to the notion of people setting goals, I just think those tired thoughts should be, well, (re)tired.
Being an nontraditional Goddess, I have a New Year’s custom that I have been practicing for years to not only achieve my dreams, but also focus my heart, soul and intentions on what I consider to be important that year. I kind of like it and I certainly like the GoddessLife community oodles…so I’m gonna share it with you.
Each year, I give a “name” to the entire year to help remind me of all the resolutions I made and motivate me to keep them going all year long. Each holiday – secular and/or spiritual become wonderful opportunities to revaluate this intention of what I have achieved, what obstacles (or opportunities:) have appeared and a chance to re-dedicate myself to the path of my heart & soul’s intention. As Joseph Campbell says, “Where you stumble, is where your treasure is”.
It’s kind of like the Steve Jobs of resolutions. I begin by writing down ALL my goals and aspirations for the year. I think of what I want to achieve both personally and professionally. I usually do a little ritual in advance of reviewing my previous year’s goals and how they ended up looking (they always appear different than imagined!) I do my very best to try not censor myself. I jot down both large and small dreams and ideas. Sometimes, I cut out pictures from magazines (or use pinterest) that represent my desires. Seeing all my wishes for the New Year visually will help me see the bigger picture.
Once I begin to see the idea that unites and sums up all my individual personal and professional goals, I select one word that succinctly articulates them. Condensing my aspirations into a simple word truly helps me to achieve them. This word will help motivate me when I’m ready to throw in the towel. I also rededicate myself throughout the year to this intention and marvel at the end of the year just how different it looks than first anticipated.
I then post the word every where I need the most inspiration to help me stay focused on my goals such as my refrigerator, alarm clock, my car’s dash board and my desk at work.
You cannot go wrong with this exercise. There are no incorrect words…and you can change your word at any time, if you discover something better!
Just to give you some insight into my personal process in selecting my word of the year; I chose the word ‘expansion’ a few years ago when I opened my dance studio. Another year I selected ‘breathe’ to help me slow down the pace of my hectic lifestyle. The year I chose the word ‘explore’, I traveled to teach belly dance in Kuwait, Alaska, New Orleans, New York, Greece and swam with dolphins in Hawaii!
This year has been unique; 2011 was a 1st rate ass-kicker! For 2012, I decided to as Rumi says, “Unfold my Own Myth.” Normally, I prefer to focus on my strengths, but this upcoming year I have decided to celebrate my weaknesses and use them to my advantage. My word this year is “Alchemy”.
I would love to hear what is your word for 2012?