Meanderings on being a dancer

Meanderings on being a dancer

Dancing is my every thing. Dancing is my method of surrendering; it’s my exercise, my meditation, my source of income, my entertainment, my expression, my devotional practice and my identity. I am a dancer, but I believe everyone is a dancer.

In my world of teaching and performing, I encounter so many people that do not believe they can dance. They think they are uncoordinated, have no rhythm and most of all, they assume the ability to dance is either something you have or you don’t.  They see dancers as members of an unattainable and exclusive club of good posture, hours of practice and perfect young bodies with plenty of technique.

It is eye candy for me to watch a trained dancer perform a well-rehearsed choreography. But my soul oozes with joy when I pick a person from my audience to come onstage with me and they let go of their inhibitions, feel the music and dance. In fact, I would prefer to watch an older woman at Mardi Gras in New Orleans, shimmying on her porch to a brass band marching by than to a 16 year old ballet dancer in the Nutcracker at Lincoln Center in New York City. The young dancer may have stamina, strength, flexibility and an agile body, but she has little life experience to express. I choose soul over technique any day of the week.


Ideally, a professional dancer should have both complete control of her body and a message to convey. Technique is like having a vocabulary and the more words you know, the more you should be able to say. A simple wrist movement could turn a command into a question and leave you spellbound by a skillful and expressive dancer.

However, if you are one of those people who have always thought you had two left feet, or are just starting out, don’t allow any negative thoughts deprive you of the happiness that dancing brings.  No matter what style: jazz, ballroom, bellydance or just plain shaking it to your favorite tune, dancing is one of the greatest joys in life. It can transform your attitude in a second and transport you into pure bliss. Dancing is freedom incarnate.

Make the world a better place: turn on your favorite song, let go and dance!  

6 comments (Add your own)

1. Christine Honeythighs wrote:
If i dont go out and dance once in awhile, i go crazy! Sometimes when im alone at home, I get these weird spontaneous urges to crank the music and dance! I compare it to a the weird freak outs that cats get once in awhile. I can't control it. I need to get up and dance. And when i hear a british 80s new wave tune, forget about it!! No matter where Im at, even at the grocery store, I have to at least wiggle. :)

Sat, April 25, 2009 @ 2:37 PM

2. Michelle wrote:
I have belly danced with Dolphina's DVD's, music a friend brought back from Egypt and Bob Marley. I love to move, always have and I love the way Dolphina expresses what I have found to be true: the more moves I learn, the easier it is to just dance and let it flow out. Sometimes I find movements almost turning into some steps I've learned in Ballroom lessons, yet with a definate belly dance flair!
So much fun to dance just for me, without worrying about form, knowing the better I become at each and every movement, the larger my 'arsenal' of moves grow!
I've even found myself 'dancing' while riding my elliptical!

Thu, April 30, 2009 @ 11:03 PM

3. Jessica wrote:
I just want to say, thank GODDESS I found Dolphina. Since I was a young girl Ive been dancing, even if I didnt know what the heck I was doing I was moving. As I got older I had this inner urge to learn belly dancing. I looked all over the Boston area and I couldnt find any classes. So I did a google search and found Dolphina. I ordered her DVD's and fell in love. Not only is she a great teacher, she makes You as a person feel amazing with her encouragement. Its so hard to explain, but now that Im belly dancing I feel complete. Its like it was something I was born to do. Even during a wellness seminar I attended I was told by a Medium I need to Belly Dance. Maybe someday she will come this way and teach a seminar. That would be a dream come true :)

Fri, May 1, 2009 @ 8:03 AM

4. Karee wrote:
When I was younger I danced but never did anything with it as I fell into the trap of comparing myself to others and I forgot to enjoy myself doing something that I love and I regret it a lot. Now I am "older", married, two kids, and oh yeah with a lot of extra baggage I am trying to get rid of now for health reasons. One day about ten years I found a DVD (another artist) and I started it on my own in my bedroom. I would do it a little while then things got in the way, kids, work, a knee injury, and then finally I went back to college and finished my degree. Now that these things are over with I am belly dancing again as a part of a workout regime along with going to the gym, and I have lost over 30 lbs. and I have got my eye on the prize, a better body and a better me. Belly dance lets me enjoy losing the weight without the feeling of oh great, I have to work out again. I enjoy it and I love throwing everyone out of the room for my "ME" time. I even enjoy it after I have done a cardio workout at the gym. Currently I have 3 of the Dolphina DVDs and I when the other DVDs are available at my local store I plan on procuring them as well. Thank you Dolphina for sharing your gift, it makes a huge differennce.

Sun, May 3, 2009 @ 11:30 AM

5. Dark Wind HOrse wrote:
I recently bellydanced for the first time in front of almost 100 people (men and women.) I've never bellydanced before, but I had a 1-hour lesson three-hours before I went on. I simply listened to the words and the rhythm of the music, and became someone else... my true self. I moved my entire body to the rise and fall of the instruments and the singer's voice. It was "Desert Rose" by Sting. I danced for the men. I danced for the women, penetrating their walls with my eyes, silently opening them up to the power they have within them. I actually dropped about ten men to their knees. They watched me, mesmerized, mouths hanging open. Some of them even reached out to me when I came near. I knew my power in that moment, and they knew it, too. We all got that message. Several men came up to me afterwards and told me that I had completely changed their image of what sexy was. I found out later, that many of the members of our group went out to eat afterwards, and they cried over my dance. You see... I'm 5'8", but I weigh 220 pounds and wear a size 18. And don't think for a second that some of those men didn't try to take me home that night. They did! ;)

Wed, July 8, 2009 @ 1:55 AM

6. darah wrote:
i should show this one to my fiance. i've gottne him to dance only once it a local jazz festivel few years ago. he is canstanly telling me that he doesn't dance and can't. maybe if he sees this he will start dancing. he tells me i'm practially a prfessional just becasue i started dancing wne i was four. never mind that the last time i did, apart from the festivels i tend to go to, was when i was thriteen. what i want to do, is when my son starts school, to try to see if i can teach bellydance to some of the locals when i start to take up classes again. what i've discovered is that to bellydance to a song, it doens't have to be arbian soundsing. there are several other songs that are modern adn rock that actually make good bellydance songs. i want to do that.

Thu, July 30, 2009 @ 12:48 PM

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