What’s truly worth doing, whether you fail or succeed?

What’s truly worth doing, whether you fail or succeed?

olie“What would you attempt to do, if you knew you could not fail?”
 
 I’ve been called a New-Age fruitloop many times, but truth be told: I loathe many new age platitudes and slogans. Mostly because I find many the New Age ideas shallow, lazy and fear-based. Take for instance, the above question I see in self-help books, hear in yoga classes and across social media pretty much non-stop.
 
 Why is it that we are so afraid of failure? Failure is as natural as succeeding and they aren't opposites of each other. As Ray Davies of the Kinks sings, “Success walks hand in hand with failure”.  They are merely different results of the same journey; success and failure are ‘effects’ of the same ‘cause’. And you can fail many times before you eventually succeed. Actually, the opposite of success is not trying at all or giving up too soon.
 
 Let’s look at starting a campfire as an ancient example and goal metaphor. You may light a match and then it blows out. Then you try using a lighter and you get the kindling on fire, but it doesn’t spread to the wood. Finally, you spark up the kindling and then blow on it and you set your fire ablaze.🔥
 
 Most things that are worth doing involve a real possibility of failure once or more times before we succeed. If we would never fail at anything and we could do anything…I don’t know about you, but I’m bored already.  A big goal or being passionate about something always involves a certain degree of risk. And that’s part of what makes it exciting.
 
 Instead of thinking about what you would do if you knew you wouldn’t fail, maybe a better question is…
 
 What’s truly worth doing, whether you fail or succeed?
 
 🚌this is what I am currently doing no matter how many failures I experience along the way: converting a school bus into a tiny-house-on-wheels with Flannel Jack and taking the road trip of our lives

11 comments (Add your own)

1. Susan Morrison wrote:
ok wait ... if something is truly worth doing, you are passionate about it, it sets your fire ablaze, it is risky and exciting ... umm haven't you already succeeded? when you experience a "failure" isn't it really learning? a door closes so you have to crawl out the window? an expansion of your expectations? the chance to dream past what you thought it might be? The only thing that will be oh so wrong is if you don't come to Canada

Sat, July 22, 2017 @ 1:21 AM

2. Rosalyn Stilling wrote:
This is so awesome! You're so right.

Sat, July 22, 2017 @ 1:22 AM

3. Amanda Otremba wrote:
And sometimes you realize something that seemed like a failure wasn't. When I write stories, I keep a page of everything I snip out, because sometimes it'll work with a different idea I had. More than once I went back and rescued a scene to be reinserted later.

Sat, July 22, 2017 @ 1:26 AM

4. Rosalyn Stilling wrote:
I needed to hear this. Thank you so much

Sat, July 22, 2017 @ 1:27 AM

5. Kayla McKenna wrote:
I love you Dolphina. I love the fire analogy you just used. It reminded me of a ritual fire I prepared a few years ago for an Aphrodisia. It was called "sweet fire" by the Native Americans in California when I first experienced it. Believe it or not the major ingredient was CHOCOLATE spread on the blessed embers with numerous candles of different colors placed by the celebrants. There were some know-it-alls who leapt at the chance to criticize it, but it didn't matter. The Ancestors and Spirit took notice and that was all that mattered. Never let some jackass dictate your vision! Never let someone throw shade on your shine.

Sat, July 22, 2017 @ 1:28 AM

6. Jerome Fortin wrote:
To me, nothing is truly a failure as long as knowledge was gained and if anything was easy, it would defeat the purpose of achievements, the more challenges one faces, the more growth and strength is gained

Sat, July 22, 2017 @ 1:28 AM

7. kotarah wrote:
You and I are one in the same! I feel your truth here! 🤗

Sat, July 22, 2017 @ 1:29 AM

8. underthestars3116 wrote:
great post!

Sat, July 22, 2017 @ 1:29 AM

9. dreamingbeforethesun wrote:
So cool

Sat, July 22, 2017 @ 1:30 AM

10. marcel_waldmann wrote:
Thats wonderful!😊

Sat, July 22, 2017 @ 1:31 AM

11. marcel_waldmann wrote:
Thats wonderful!😊

Sat, July 22, 2017 @ 1:31 AM

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